Saturday, March 25, 2017

mentoring

Erick Slabaugh was only 19 when he was put in as a leader in the work. He bought part of the of the company and eventually bought the equity out. He was working and not gaining money the way his friends were in the fastest rate his friends were. He said you have to have courage to start a business, but he knew that it worth the risk.  He recognized the value of mentor ship.  He wishes that he looked to others for that mentor ship. He thought it would be great to start a computer access company.  He didn’t know what to do with computer program investing.  He failed at achieving success from that investment. Having a family business is a rough way to go about your day but its rewarding to work hard and be able to see that you did something powerful at the end of the day.

being a mentor matters. we all have something that we can give to others and making it matter so that our life has purpose is so important.

Friday, November 4, 2016

Be the best you can

Be a mentor.  This week as I have prepared to interview an entrepreneur, The thing that kept coming to mind is find a mentor, be a mentor, be better, be the best you can.  I know random, but it is so important to be someone that can come to you for help.  Be willing to share what you know to help someone be better.

Elder Holland said this of digging through and pressing forward during the times of learning and struggle. "Be all that you can be! If you have oil in your lamps, you will find how often you get a chance to light them. If you have cared enough to prepare, your light will attract many, both men and women who will seek and cherish your companionship."

We have a responsibility to help others. To be better and help others even when its out of our comfort zone. 

Friday, May 20, 2016

Evolving

I love this quote because marriage is evolving and changing all the time. “A good marriage does not require a perfect man or a perfect woman. It only requires a man and a woman committed to strive together toward perfection” (Divorce, Elder Dallin H. Oaks).




                                              


 Marriage changes. 

Marriage looks different a for everyone, because we are all different people. Marriage evolves depending on the things that are going on in life at that time. Marriage is different as newlyweds more blissful, less weight of the world because life is about both of you. Then when children come things change a little bit. The time for each other is not equal. The time is crucial that you find a long time together to reconnect as companions. Then the trials of children and life and mortgages and car payments and bills are there but there's also an evolution of how that works because of income. Again, it's ever-changing evolving. I love how Elder Oaks states that neither man or woman is perfect but working together and working towards a common goal of perfection is what it's all about. Something that I have found is I'm very very stingy about my companion time. We always have made time for date night even when the kids were little, sometimes it would be a date at home after the kids went to bed with a movie and maybe a pizza. It was the simple things but turning things off to focus on each other. As humans we change and evolve and are not the same person that we are when we get married. The idea needs to be made that the divorce is not an option but the two are working together for a common goal of perfection. Sometimes you're given 50/50 sometimes 60/40 and some times  20/80 but the ideas that you just keep working.

Monday, November 16, 2015

Ashley loves this of her dad.

Before 


normal!

Ashley loves the top picture of her dad. She thinks its the funniest thing.  I love my family.
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Saturday, September 12, 2015

Family Proclamation Project...

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Wednesday, July 15, 2015

marking 2 years since diagnosis

WARNING>>>> graphic gross pictures.

I am asked all the time how I knew I had cancer, what kind, how ...when...why.   Well I share, not to spot light me, but to show.  You TOO can get cancer.  If you are like me, and have lots of moles, that change and you worry. Dont worry anymore, go to the doctor.

  I am so thankful for people that made me go.  I did drag my feet, but such is life.  I am Norwegian dutch, German and Irish.  and a pale kind of freckly, red headed,white pale skin, green eye kind of descent.  Did you know that green eyed people from western European decent are the most likely to get Basal Cell Carcinoma (cancer). Well i am within all the checklist of highest risk.

I grew up in Southern California and I am a water baby and I have always worn sunscreen, However I always burn.  Always.  I have been teased for wearing swim shirts and long shorts in the water.  I protect my skin, and I got it.

I got my first cancer at 18 on my forehead.  They removed it with no further worries that was in 1995  In 1999, I had 11 biopsies, and 3 were cancer.  Tally 4  I regularly had my skin checked until 2013 I had 22 biopsies, with 4 being cancer and 1 that was the littlest on my face and a doooooozy!

1 biopsy, on what I thought was a pimple.  surgery removal,  facial reconstruction from a Scottsdale facial plastic surgeon and 50 stitches.  the hole was so deep that had to take extra fat from my cheek to fill in the hole.  Here i am 2 years later and my face is lopsided, my eyes are straight, there is still pain occasionally and I experience my face being paralyzed periodically, BUT.  no cancer in my face!   GO GET CHECKED.
1- a few weeks before the biopsy... Clueless of the destruction happening under my face

2- right after I had the cancer removal.  I was awake and..... the hole was so big they couldn't close it so they put this band-aid on me and sent me across town where I was rushed in for facial reconstruction.

3- in the hospital still asleep from surgery
4- the day after surgery
5- 2 days after surgery healing
6-a week after surgery
7- a week or so after
8-  I was in so much pain my eyes were having migraine type pain.
9- Today, cancer free and healing pretty good.  


Needless to say, but Go get checked!!!

Friday, June 5, 2015

Nana's clock... and chair



I was just sitting here, reading for my family psychology class and noticed that I had set my Nana's grandfather clock, and rocking chair right by each other in the loft.  It was not intentional, but  surprising,  I have carried this clock, that doesn't work and hasnt for years to 3 houses.  I officially am grateful for antiques that come from my nana.  Every time I see it I think of her.

The rocking chair, no one sits on and is falling apart.  I remember, vividly, as a kid Nana telling us not to rock on it because it would collapse and I would rock and it would collapse.  I am a little afraid of the chair, still after all these years, but yet I have it sitting near my office.  I don't know how or where she acquired these but, I know they both have stories to tell.  

Neither is my favorite style,but I love them because they are mine.

Thursday, May 21, 2015

i love my family. The end.

    I love my family. The end.

Sunday, April 26, 2015

Fractured Prune... Not what it seems



An impromptu date to lunch and The Fractured Prune Doughnut Shop.  
Good thing he is cute, and I follow him around, because I am not a fried food lover...at all.  or donuts, but bacon and maple sugar on a doughnut.  YUCK.  
No I didn't try it, but he did share it with all the kids.  



Wednesday, December 31, 2014

10 things that changed me in 2014

I was inspired by another blogger to share things  that have help me be a better Kary in 2014...I must first say I am private and dont like to be negative on social media, with that being said, I am not being negative, just real ;)

1. I stepped outside of my comfort zone traveling.  I dislike traveling. This year we went to Mexico and found a new favorite family spot.  Puerto Penasco.  Colorado for David's work party, it was great but missed my kids.  Pennsylvannia. I learned who I am and where I came from.  I was born there and learned so much about my rich heritage and it was inspiring to say the least.Family history research has made me appreciate my family more.  Families are forever, thank goodness. Technology makes it fun. I am thankful for my desire to learn about family history. I am thankful for the opportunity to see new places and appreciate getting out of Arizona even for short times...

2. The temple is powerful and the blessings we get from attending are real.  Being a part of the new temple being brought to the valley inspired me to be a better patron in attendance.  It blesses us. I am thankful for the knowledge the temple gives me.

3.  I went back to college, at my favorite college.  BYU- Idaho.  If you know me then you know I love BYU. Period. I am thankful for education.

4. I read the Book of Mormon cover to cover after being inspired by an app on Instagram.  It helped change my mind a little about my dislike for social media, yet here i am using it.  I HAD to read the Book of Mormon for 2 of my classes and I am so thankful I had to because I got to read it. It was wonderful to get to read it again. . My testimony has grown tenfold. I am thankful for the scriptures that help me in my daily rollercoaster of life.

5. Because of the scriptures, my relationship with Christ, BYU and my husband and kids, trials seemed more  doable.  I have learned that the most important thing in life is to be surrounded by good people, that love and lift us.  There are lots of good people that don't do that.  This year I have realized the good in my life.  We choose to be offended. I do believe to see the GOOD in people, but i do believe some do mean to offend. I have realized that I am oblivious, more than I originally thought. I am less trusting in people, trust needs to be earned.  I am however much more trusting in the Lord.  He is the only one not being persuaded by satan. I am thankful for those that show love to me and my  little family, not hate.

6. I am so thankful for my health.  More specifically for not having 1 shot or an cancer treatments this year.  With 22 biopsies in 2013, 4 being cancer,  No cancer treatments this year was awesome.  I skipped 6 skin cancer appointments because I just couldnt do it.  It felt good to not listen to the doctors for once, but mainly because I am a wimp.  Cancer kicked my rear in 2013. 2014 was good!  I am thankful for good doctors and good medicine.

7. My camera.  I love to photograph humans and things created in this world.  I have captured memories this year, some will never get back. This year I grew in a way I never knew I would by photographing life, and death, more than anyone should and I am so thankful for the trust in all my clients, friends and family as they let me photograph my favorite people.  I am thankful for my NIKON Cameras !!

8. I learned how to find time to enjoy my kids.  I am not a perfect mom, and still have a lot to learn, but my kids give me strength and help me be better.  I love their innocence and honesty. They are real with me.  I wish I remembered what it felt like to be a kid.  They are so pure. I am so thankful to be a mom to kids that that love me unconditionally.

9. Miracles are real.  Miracles really do happen and I am humbled to see it happen.

10. I have my own superman.  Super Dave is what we call him, but he has strength like I have never seen.  He is my favorite. He serves our family endlessly, while working full time, going to school fulltime, being the Bishop and serving endlessly and with great humbleness. We have been together over 17 years and he is mine.  He really is the better half of me.  He makes me better and teaches me and lets me teach him. I am thankful for him.

Happy New year to all my GOOD people.  You are known and loved!  May 2015 find you good.

Friday, December 19, 2014

I love to see the temple...








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I love to Photograph the temple.  all of them.  I decided for christmas to do a big order of them so everyone could enjoy them.  I sold over 100!!! I am so thankful for the temple!

Thursday, October 2, 2014

Pennsylvannia September 2014


I had the opportunity to go to Pennsylvannia with Dave while he had a trade show in Hershey Pennsylvannia.  I was born in PA in 1977 and went back when I was 6 or 7.  I dont remember any of it, so it was fun to learn where I came into this world.   I have been doing lots of family history, genealogy so I have learned alot about...me.  But i really got to learn about me... I did.  I saw lots of sites, but when I saw the grave of my grandfather i never met.  I cried...alot.  I love doing family history.  I have found out more about  who I am it was awesome.
Paul Ivan Hatfield
World war II survivor
Looking for his grave was a needle in a haystack

Some sites from our romantic, fun trip. 
Philadelphia Pennsylvannia Lds Temple.  Gorgeous!

Working Amish farm.

Rowing crews in Philadelphia at sundown...

Independence hall where the declaration of Independence was signed!

 SOY BEANS... Everywhere!!!
Buggy minus the horse

Capitol building in Harrisburg.  I thought the gold statue looked liked Angel Moroni... for real!

Hershey kiss mobile car.  It said kisses so we did.

Philadelphia museum of art  The top of the rocky stairs!

Super cool.  FYI, the Amish scowl at you if they take their picture!

Pretty amish Ladies

Mr. Hershey lived on this street

 Hoopes land.  They owned 600 acres in West Chester.

Hershey plant was so cool.  the tour was awesome and yummy samples.

Hershey's Mansion across from the plant.



Super Dave as Rocky.

Capitol building in the rear
Cemeteries everywhere. Gorgeous headstones

We saw Some of the Hoopes Famly History as well. This is the last remaining part of the Joshua Hoopes Homestead in West Chester. It is on the Historical National Treasure List. the Home was built in 1736. It was surreal.

Abraham Lincolns Hat box.  Unreal seeing these Smithsonian artifacts

Seeing all the things we saw of our Nations capitol made me proud to be an American. So many more pictures to share.
Norristown, Hershey, West Chester, Philadelphia, Harrisburg.  I highly recommend making the trip.



Thursday, August 14, 2014

Mexico...

What a great time we had in Mexico.  These kids were such a blast to be around.  and th view.  Rocky Point has a place in our heart.  Can't wait to go back.

20 years

We went back to California for 20 hours.  that includes driving and sleeping and 4 hours at the High school reunion.  My hubby was nervous people wouldn't remember him.  They did.  how could you not.  It was fun to listen to people about his highschool life.

Monday, April 14, 2014

Mine

  
remember in Finding Nemo all the seagulls would say...mine...mine....mine.... Yup that is how I feel about this handsome guy.  He fixed the radio in my car this morning.  My new car that keeps breaking.  Love him

Saturday, March 15, 2014

Paigeeeee

This darling girl has been a part of our life for so long.  She was little when I met her.  She is a senior.  I was so lucky to spend the afternoon with her.  Look at the sky by the end of the photo shoot.  I feel blessed to know her.  She is such a doll. 

 Ethan was our photographer and told us how to stand this was the result!!!!