Friday, November 4, 2016

Be the best you can

Be a mentor.  This week as I have prepared to interview an entrepreneur, The thing that kept coming to mind is find a mentor, be a mentor, be better, be the best you can.  I know random, but it is so important to be someone that can come to you for help.  Be willing to share what you know to help someone be better.

Elder Holland said this of digging through and pressing forward during the times of learning and struggle. "Be all that you can be! If you have oil in your lamps, you will find how often you get a chance to light them. If you have cared enough to prepare, your light will attract many, both men and women who will seek and cherish your companionship."

We have a responsibility to help others. To be better and help others even when its out of our comfort zone. 

Friday, May 20, 2016

Evolving

I love this quote because marriage is evolving and changing all the time. “A good marriage does not require a perfect man or a perfect woman. It only requires a man and a woman committed to strive together toward perfection” (Divorce, Elder Dallin H. Oaks).




                                              


 Marriage changes. 

Marriage looks different a for everyone, because we are all different people. Marriage evolves depending on the things that are going on in life at that time. Marriage is different as newlyweds more blissful, less weight of the world because life is about both of you. Then when children come things change a little bit. The time for each other is not equal. The time is crucial that you find a long time together to reconnect as companions. Then the trials of children and life and mortgages and car payments and bills are there but there's also an evolution of how that works because of income. Again, it's ever-changing evolving. I love how Elder Oaks states that neither man or woman is perfect but working together and working towards a common goal of perfection is what it's all about. Something that I have found is I'm very very stingy about my companion time. We always have made time for date night even when the kids were little, sometimes it would be a date at home after the kids went to bed with a movie and maybe a pizza. It was the simple things but turning things off to focus on each other. As humans we change and evolve and are not the same person that we are when we get married. The idea needs to be made that the divorce is not an option but the two are working together for a common goal of perfection. Sometimes you're given 50/50 sometimes 60/40 and some times  20/80 but the ideas that you just keep working.