I love this quote because marriage is evolving and changing all the time. “A good marriage does not require a perfect man or a perfect woman. It only requires a man and a woman committed to strive together toward perfection” (Divorce, Elder Dallin H. Oaks).
Marriage looks different a for everyone, because we are all different people. Marriage evolves depending on the things that are going on in life at that time. Marriage is different as newlyweds more blissful, less weight of the world because life is about both of you. Then when children come things change a little bit. The time for each other is not equal. The time is crucial that you find a long time together to reconnect as companions. Then the trials of children and life and mortgages and car payments and bills are there but there's also an evolution of how that works because of income. Again, it's ever-changing evolving. I love how Elder Oaks states that neither man or woman is perfect but working together and working towards a common goal of perfection is what it's all about. Something that I have found is I'm very very stingy about my companion time. We always have made time for date night even when the kids were little, sometimes it would be a date at home after the kids went to bed with a movie and maybe a pizza. It was the simple things but turning things off to focus on each other. As humans we change and evolve and are not the same person that we are when we get married. The idea needs to be made that the divorce is not an option but the two are working together for a common goal of perfection. Sometimes you're given 50/50 sometimes 60/40 and some times 20/80 but the ideas that you just keep working.